I have been getting repeated messages about twin flame and soul mate. Hearing the same thing from different people. Tony Robbins says “Love makes us feel alive no matter how stressful or busy we are” His wife said ‘Love and passion is our food of life’

Then I often hear people says this , “no, I am not ready”,”relationship is not for me”, “Men are no good”, ” I always meet bad men” and “I don’t want to jump from a bad relationship to another” etc. Even I myself have said such.

If this is the aura I am sending out, this is what I will attract. They either bounce away from from us or hello doormat.

I was also advise not to take it for granted but consciously create love. Create the loving aura, love self and others around you. I have bend over backward trying to compensate. I thought this is understanding, being considerate and loving. It is not love. It’s feeding an empty shell inside so that I feel wanted.

Soul mate is not to look for the right person but becoming the right person.

I begin by asking myself, ‘what kind of person I want to be? When I become that quality, I attract that person. Every relationship is a mirror. If I don’t like what I see in the mirror, I don’t fight my reflection. Isn’t it? I got to change it.

Iyanla Vanzant say this very simple but profound words, it made sense:

Often, people are worrying about their relationship with someone else. Spend no time developing relationship with themselves. They want to be with somebody because they don’t want to be with themselves. If you don’t want to be with yourself. Who wants to be with you?

With the exercise of my name (Click Here), I ask myself, what do I look like from inside?  What do I see in myself? Have I abandon my talents and dreams? Constant thoughts of what’s the next thing to do, I have forgotten the joy of living in the moment with myself. Forgotten how actual loving joy feels like by just being myself.

I took a stroll to the children’s playground and observe the children. Why are they so happy? Why they often get what they want? The innocence and joy of being in the moment, being themselves.

To find love, start with ‘me’ today. Build an honest relationship with myself. Simply to love self and no other reason. Then see what happens….

Elizabeth Gilbert who wrote Eat, Pray, Love said this:
My husband has a line I always quote. A women’s place is in the kitchen, with her feet up, drinking a glass of wine, watching her husband cook her a meal.
Then he pour me a glass of wine, with my feet up and he said, “now darling, tell me what happen today”
I ask, How did I win this life?
Her friend replied because you blossom into the sort of person who attracted a man like that. You’ve learnt to treat yourself so well on your own that when someone came along who treated you well, you finally recognise what that feels like, because you have been doing it to yourself the whole time. 

Start-over a relationship with myself.
Wishing everyone a good start-over…